Sexuality and women.

I was watching tv today and found myself disgusted.  Absolutely beautiful women dressed in outfits so tight they leave nothing to imagine.  Being a beautiful sexy woman is not something I experienced.  I was attractive not beautiful.  Perhaps that colors my opinion.  When, long ago, I was fifteen,  I had an aunt who commented to me "You can be far more sexy and alluring with your clothes on than off.  It is an art a lady learns as she matures."

That comment served me well.  And, it is true, at least when I look at my own experiences.

Don't get me wrong.  Sex is an incredibly wonderful experience.  I've had sex for sex's sake ... that is to
"scratch the itch" and I've had sex with intimacy.  There is absolutely NO comparison.  There is nothing that compares to being held, cherished, respected, desired and loved.  NOTHING.

Learning to grow and mature into our sexuality is a journey.  When we respect ourselves we come to realize that blantant sexuality that smacks men right in the face can rarely ever become more.

A couple of years ago there was a news media article that looked at girls in the 10-12 year old age bracket having sex.  One of the comments kind of haunted me:  "I gave head because I just wanted to be wanted!"  Sad commentary, wouldn't you say?  That little girl, in my humble opinion, never experienced being wanted in her own home and because of that looks else where.  Children who are abused or abandoned do that.  We judge them oh so unfairly.  For some of them the sexual act is that only love they will ever know.  Sex and love can be distinctly separate.

Why do I say that?  Well, men, boys by their very biological make-up are programed genetically to seek sex.  Historically, women have been taught to say "NO".  They are automatically put into a "gatekeeper" as it were position.  Rightly or wrongly.  Why?  Because women are the ones who get pregnant.  A child having a child is an opportunity for continued problems.  A very few pregnant teenagers who get pregnant have the massive family support necessary to go beyond the challenges.  The average teenager pregnant does not have that kind of support.

I find myself thinking:  Suit up or show up to teaching girls to respect themselves.  A girls' sexuality is a gift, a treasure.  Help them grown into respecting themselves.  Talk about it.

That's the biggest thing:  talk and talk some more.   We do not talk.  We cannot expect girls to do this without the older women in their lives teaching, sharing, and talking.  Oversexed tv personalities promote girls not respecting themselves.